There are so many thoughts that come to mind when I think about refine. There are things we refine, there are processes we refine, there are attitudes, homes, and paperwork we refine. We refine sugar, and oil to get rid of impurities, to rid the product from harmful substances. By definition, the word “refine” means: to remove impurities or unwanted substances, or to improve by a series of small steps and processes.
I wonder what it will look like when we take steps to refine our lives? What would this even mean? I think a lot of times the American perspective on resolutions is skewed. We set goals for a “new” me, “new” life, “new” home etc. instead of just taking the time to fix what we already have. Mid century America was good at refining. Us–not so much. I think we are headed in the right direction, but we need work.
For us as a family we are going to refine our life this year in the following ways:
- Our Money. We need to plan better, set goals and tell our money where to go. Money can control you, but it needs to control you in a good way, for a better life. Dave Ramsey is a great guide. You should read it.
- Our Homeschooling. We have the most AMAZING group of people in our homeschooling bubble. Seriously, they make me grateful for our life everyday. There are so many outstanding people with remarkable talents and so many things to offer our kids, and it is so tempting to do everything. And then you become busy, and busy isn’t a life.
- Our Food. When you are busy, you eat what you can find. You eat take out. Cereal becomes a good dinner alternative. We are going to take efforts to change our food. To eat whole foods, to eat planned, intentional meals.
- Our Family Time. Jordan and I are ambitious. We work hard, we work diligently. We are going to be more intentional about our family time to refine it, to make it more meaningful.
Refining things doesn’t mean that what you have isn’t good. I like what we have. I love our life, but there is always, always room for improvement. When you stop growing, you stop living.