Boy, you are something. You made me a mom. You have taught me how to love fiercely and unconditionally, stretched my patience to the end of the earth, made messes bigger than I thought possible, made me giggle with delight, my blood boil with anger, my heart ache for one more snuggle.
And now I look it you. The lines on your face are becoming strong. You are taller than me. You would prefer to hang out with the adults and don’t like being put in the “kid” category. How did you get to be (nearly) 13 already? I remember the day I brought you home. You were wrapped in a bright yellow fleece snowsuit equivalent ducky onsie. It was absurdly cold for April. I was scared of you, but so in love. And now, here I am again about to take on a new adventure with you as a teenager. My boy, my lovely sweet boy, take these thoughts from your Mama with you as you get older and grow into a man.
- Hold on to you. Life is a journey. So many people are going to try to change you. Always. You are never going to be good enough for everyone. You are always going to have haters. Live a genuine, honest life doing what you love, with people you love and don’t worry about the rest of the world.
- Don’t get to big for your britches. You are beautiful and talented, funny and strong, sensitive and kind. Those are all good things. There’s a lot about you that people should and will admire. Stay humble, and always remember your roots and look for the good in everyone. Everyone has good in them.
- Be a man. I don’t mean this in the herculean, save the world, superman mentality. But be respectful, chivalrous, walk with integrity, admit your mistakes. That is something you’ll be proud of.
- Pursue your dreams. Love, I don’t care if you are a dog walker, a gas station attendant, a doctor or the president. Find something that defines you, that sets your soul on fire, that makes life worth living–and do that. Dreams won’t come to you because you wish on them. Theres no magic trick to living what you have always dreamed of but hard work and goal setting can make anything happen.
- Don’t take yourself too seriously. Laugh at your mistakes. There are going to be a lot of them. You’ll probably lose more than you win. Laugh at your mistakes and learn from them.
- Friends are the family you choose. You will always have us-we are family. Friends are important too. Choose people that reciprocate your love, intent, and attempts to get together. Don’t waste your time on friends that don’t make you feel good.
- No one will ever love you like your mother does. When you cry, I cry. When you smile, I smile. I would fight for you, no matter the cost. When you go out in your journey’s for love–find someone who loves you with that same intensity. That person won’t be perfect, but when you find that person, you’ll know.
As I am writing this, our song comes to mind. I am note sure you remember it but “I Hope You Dance” is the perfect song for you, my boy. Dance your heart out, stay humble, and live life to the fullest.